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How to invite (and not invite) plus-one's

When it comes to wedding planning, one of the trickiest tasks can be communicating the plus-one policy to your guests. Whether you have limitations on guest numbers or want to maintain an intimate atmosphere, it's important to handle the situation with tact and clarity. Today I'm going to give you some tips on how to effectively communicate the plus-one status to your guests, while adhering to proper wedding invitation etiquette.

Determine Your Plus-One Policy


Before sending out invitations, discuss and establish your plus-one policy as a couple. Consider factors such as your budget, venue capacity, and the desired atmosphere for your wedding. Decide whether you'll be extending plus-ones to all guests, only to those in serious relationships, or based on other criteria. It's essential to have a clear policy in place to avoid confusion. And once you have your plan.. stick to it! This will avoid hurt feelings and confusion.


Address Invitations Appropriately

When addressing your wedding invitations, use proper etiquette to convey whether a guest is invited with a plus-one. If you're extending a plus-one invitation, include the phrase "and Guest" on the outer envelope beneath the guest's name. This indicates that they can bring a date or companion of their choice.


Specify the Guest's Name on the Inner Envelope

To avoid any confusion about who is specifically invited, use the inner envelope to specify the names of each guest invited. This will help clarify whether a plus-one invitation extends to a specific person or not. For example, you can address it as "Mr. [Guest's Name]" or "Ms. [Guest's Name]" to indicate that they are the sole invited guest.


Communicate Clearly on RSVP Cards or Website RSVP

To further clarify the plus-one status, include clear instructions on your RSVP cards. If a guest is invited with a plus-one, you can include a line that says "We have reserved [Number] seat(s) in your honor" and provide space for the guest to indicate whether they will be attending alone or with a date. If a plus-one is not extended, simply include a line that says "We have reserved [Number] seat(s) in your honor" without mentioning a plus-one.


Address Plus-One Questions Directly

Guests may still have questions about whether they can bring a plus-one, even if you've communicated your policy clearly. Be prepared to address these inquiries directly and kindly. If a guest asks about bringing a date and their invitation does not include a plus-one, gently explain that you have made specific arrangements based on your guest list and budget.


Handle Special Cases with Sensitivity

In certain situations, you may need to make exceptions to your plus-one policy. For example, if a guest's partner is not listed on the invitation, but they are in a long-term committed relationship, you may consider extending a plus-one invitation to accommodate their situation. Handle such cases with sensitivity, and be prepared to discuss and make adjustments if necessary.


Effectively communicating the plus-one status to your guests is an important aspect of wedding planning. By adhering to proper wedding invitation etiquette and following the tips mentioned above, you can convey your plus-one policy clearly and respectfully. Remember that open and honest communication is key, and handling guest inquiries with kindness and understanding will help create a positive experience for both you and your guests.



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